Where loss in life is inevitable, one of the most important concepts we can learn is closure. Closure, that elusive concept we chase when our past won’t leave us, is when you understand why that element of your past has come to an end, when you have no more questions to ask and nothing else to say, when you are not necessarily comfortable with how it has ended but your heart has accepted it.
But how can you have closure when nothing can ever be understood? When there’s always more questions to ask; where no matter what you say you can never say how you feel; where your heart can’t accept when the pain is so real.
Life is exceedingly difficult to grasp. Nothing about it is practical or sensible. When you try to understand it becomes wildly unintelligible. We find ourselves baffled, dazzled by why certain relationships begin and why others end; why we meet the people who we will lose when we have yet to meet the people who we can keep forever.
Moreover, how can there be closure when you have to let go of a past that made you who are? Maybe closure is an illusion? Possibly a figment of our imagination?
Closure is real, but it’s not called closure but rather trust in G-d. It is that trust, that faith that gives you the inner peace and the outer strength to forge forward. Having faith does not give understanding nor does it lessen the pain. It just helps you accept what hurts; believe when it doesn’t make sense; move forward when you want give up. And ultimately, it helps you feel that one day it’s going to be okay no matter how much you feel that today it’s not okay.
2015