Just visited my grandparents today, and after 60 years of marriage, I still see my grandfather with his HUGE sense of humor, making fun of my grandmother. And then you have my grandmother who jokes back that the last time she paid any attention to my grandfather was over 60 years ago. When I spent time with them today, I noticed something, that if I was younger, I probably would not have not noticed. My grandparents are happy and successful, with a beautiful legacy in front of them. But interestingly, they didn’t have the thousands of self-help marriage books that litter the bookstores; nor did they have the internet or the proliferation of marriage classes; in fact, I doubt if they had much of choice in marrying each other. And in spite of this, they are truly happy. Rabbi Heschel says that our generation reads more and more about less and less. And we see with the more choices we have, the less happy we have become; the more luxury and pleasure at our disposal, the less spirit and meaning in our lives. We expect so much from one another but not enough from ourselves. The dating scene is filled with people always looking for better. Maybe it’s the mentality of ‘plenty of fish in the sea’, that I hear all the time, which caused the decay of values and the desire to drop the one in front of us to find another one that ‘better’ matches us. Maybe we should step back, take a deep meditative look at the one in front, and instead of questioning if they are good enough for us, we should sincerely ask – are we good enough for them?