Last night for the first time in my life I went to a wedding of an older couple probably somewhere in their 50s and it was freaking awesome. It was soooooo different than a typical wedding of a younger couple.
First, I feel like for young people to get married they have to get bamboozled. They are granted this grand wedding with all this glitz and glamour and praise. The wedding last night was very simple that would NEVER EVER be accepted by a younger couple. But this older couple didn’t need the entire production; they just wanted to make a loving commitment to each other and that’s it.
When you get married when you’re younger there are so many different drives and ulterior motives and conditions that compel the marriage. In contrast, there is something so pure about an older couple getting married. It’s for companionship, for oneness, for love, to share a life together.
Older couples come with history, with baggage, and are fraught with background, but it doesn’t matter. They are both coming from a place of acceptance. They are choosing to see past the exterior and see a soul; to see a beauty that lies beneath the surface. That itself requires a lot of depth that when you are younger you haven’t cultivated yet.
When you’re younger there is this exotic romanticism, a full sweep of emotions of what marriage is; which is lovely but both are choosing this commitment without understanding what on earth they are getting themselves into. With an older couple, which a lot of times is a second marriage, there is a quiet wisdom of understanding the difficulty that lies ahead, yet notwithstanding, they choose this binding commitment and they celebrate all the challenges that come with it.
Just to end off, no one should ever think that it’s too late for them to find someone. You’re wrong!!! Dead wrong!!!! It can happen anytime!! Never lose hope!!!!!! Life is so unpredictable and chaotic and challenging and there are so many reasons to despair, but last night I walked away seeing with my own eyes that life is open to changing for the better and with a heart full of hope, it will change for the better. And maybe, maybe, after all, there is such a thing as fairy tale endings.
2021